‘I’ve had sex with both younger and older men. That’s the difference, who’s better’

She wasn’t worried about the age gap, even though he’s in his early 40s. She said it was the first time she’d had someone so much older than her.

– Before that moment, the oldest person I had been with was my ex, who was nine years older than me. But the time I spent with David was an eye-opener for me. Unlike partners my own age, he didn’t want to just fuck me and roll over to sleep. Exploring my body was his prerogative, so he took the time to understand what made it work, more than any lover my age. After him, I slept with older men regularly, although I also had relationships with younger men – she says.

He noted that one of the big trends on the dating scene this year is the exposure of people with large age differences.

He tries to answer the question – are older men or younger men better lovers?

– I start with my elders to show respect. In my 20s, when I was still trying to figure out who I was, I found that I felt safe with them. Trying new things in bed can be scary at first, but I know I’m in good hands, so it’s easier for me to try these new things. Because of them, I don’t feel stupid even though I have no experience – says Almara.

Most of them were eager to show her their skills, seeing her as a mentor, and she was proud to have learned something.

– However, this does not mean that these games are without challenges. I am aware of the stress in their lives. It seems to me that they used to emphasize this strength. They were like this because of the big age difference – she said.

She subconsciously believes that their opinions and practices are more important than hers because they have experienced more life.

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– It took me many years to realize that I don’t have to follow them as a leader, and they don’t have to lead. This problem is less present with younger people I’ve slept with. The youngest was my current boyfriend, 28, I was 34, and before him there were others. However, since I’m older now, I make sure that the sense of power is not unbalanced, which I sometimes felt when I was younger – she says.

Making her partner feel safe has always been very important to her. She always asks her lover if he is happy in the relationship and encourages him to express his desires.

– Despite my attempts to communicate openly and to please my partner, younger people do not always show me the same kindness. A former lover, who was five years younger than me, was very good in bed. He was always giving, and I appreciated it. But outside of bed, he was expressionless – she remembers.

Soon she couldn’t stand it anymore, so she left him.

– If you want to start my “motor”, my mind needs as much stimulation as my body – a fact that young people, at least in my experience, do not fully understand. However, what they lack in maturity they sometimes make up for with enthusiasm. When I was 28, I had a great one-night stand … with a 24-year-old man named Jonas. He was one of the most enthusiastic sexual partners I’ve ever had, and I felt very comfortable in his company – she recalls.

Because of this, she feels empowered to take a more dominant role, take up more space, and tell him exactly what she wants and needs.

– Maybe I’m “loud” now, but I wasn’t like this before. Statistically, women talk less in bed anyway. Fortunately for me, Jonas is not only happy to follow “orders”, but he is also not afraid of taking responsibility – he remembers.

One thing she noticed that both groups, older and younger, had in common was that they would become jealous or resentful when it became clear that Almara had slept with more people than they had.

– Sometimes, the way they treat me gets worse, and then the relationship usually ends. I can only speak from my own experience, but my history tells me that I know when it comes to… When it comes to choosing a sexual partner, things are never over. Older people (which now includes me) usually have more “baggage” to drag into bed, from unresolved emotional issues and ex-partners, to work problems and general stress – But this can also be positive, because the more experience we have, the more we understand how to express our needs and deal with what life throws at us, including sex – she explains.

I would also like to mention that there is an age limit.

– In short, if you’re worried that someone might be too young or too old for you, they probably are. You have a responsibility to consider the well-being of others, just as you consider your own. So while it might be the hot new dating trend, it should never just be a case of jumping into bed with the next “silver fox” you see. As for who ultimately performs better in bed, well, let’s just say sex is relative. Regardless, every lover has something valuable to teach us, he writes subway.