Are women with children more responsible?

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Written by: Dr. Nancy Alvarez

In the Univisión show “Desiguales”, a man said that he prefers to date single women who are raising children. We thought this was strange because most men shy away from commitment, especially with women who have children. This means they have children to take care of, and their expenses are likely to skyrocket.

The gentleman’s point is good, though. He says women, whether single or divorced but with children, are more “responsible” and take better care of themselves precisely because they have to shoulder the burden.

There was a big argument on the show because Adamari López gave the example of saying that this is not true, that there are many women who take care of their children alone, but they are all crazy people who live on the streets, drink, do whatever, go out with other men and don’t take care of their children.

In fact, it’s very difficult to generalize because humans are complex and unique. To say that most people are one way or another, you first have to prove it in a really good study.

In conclusion, I think that women with children are not necessarily perfect or good. In the years I have worked in the office, I have met thousands of people who told me that there are very responsible mothers who attach great importance to the care and future of their children. But I have also seen extremely irresponsible mothers who are very bad at their roles.

There is one thing I want to clarify, though. If you enter a relationship where a lot of people have opinions, everything becomes even more conflicted. For example, if you marry a man who has children from a previous marriage (some men and women have children from up to two marriages), studies show that the marriage will fail quickly because second marriages fail even faster.

What is this for? Because there are many people who express their opinions and think they have the right to intervene. In the past, mothers-in-law were almost all very poisonous, criticizing “Why do you treat my son’s son like this, why don’t you treat your son like this? And you, you, you, you, you, you.”

Many people believe that a new partner should not interfere with the way you raise your children. But this is not true. That is, at first, a man must win the support of his adopted child before he can start to become a father and set the rules. Therefore, there is more to learn from family therapy so that marriages consisting of couples with children do not have conflicts.

There is often jealousy between siblings and people start talking about “yours,” “mine,” and “ours.” It’s a Pandora’s box. So if you open it, my advice is to go to family therapy.

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